bluecastle: (reid 'thinking')
In the course of trawling around the internets (I keep typing that "internests") I came across this book that I was intrigued to read called,

I Thought it was Just Me (but it isn't): Telling the Truth about Perfectionism, Inadequacy, and Power by Brene Brown.

Brene's a shame researcher, and I've just started picking away at the book. In the introduction she writes about how it's helpful to differentiate between embarrassment, guilt, humiliation, and shame.

I like semantics, so I am mulling over these definitions.

embarrassment is typically fleeting, often funny, and very normal (ie. these things happen to everyone).

guilt is what we feel when our behavior is inconsistent with who we want to be.

humiliation was summed up thusly -- whereas people believe they deserve their shame; they do not believe they deserve their humiliation. (Also, repeated humiliation can lead to shame.)

and shame -- if guilt is "I did something bad" then shame manifests as "I AM bad."

Something to think about and puzzle over whether I, like a lot of people, use these words interchangeably.
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... but I just had to order a 4 issue subscription to this coolest of cool mags I just discovered... (clicky on the mag and preview a whole issue)

http://www.uppercasegallery.ca/uppercase-journal/2010/1/25/preview-the-entire-issue.html

I can't wait to read it... and then I can't wait to cut it up and journal all over it!

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